This is connection - This is healing.

My business coach - who is helping me with the geeky online back end stuff, asked me a conversation provoking question this morning. 

Where do you fit in? What sort of group do you belong to? You know like, there's hippies, emo's, religious people, etc where do you fit? This was only our second online meeting and I guess he was curiously trying to sum me up. My immediate response was. Well I don't fit. You can't put me in a box. 

I believe in Jesus, but I'm not religious. 

People call me a hippy when I talk to trees, am really passionate about caring for the planet and advocating love, peace and harmony but I'm also ambitious and care about creating financial abundance. 

I take care of my appearance, but I'm not a girly girl. 

His next question was, but you have to fit somewhere. How do you cope in a world where you feel like you don't fit? To be honest, up until recently, this was a struggle for me most of my life. His questions led to such a deep and profound conversation for us both. I wish we'd recorded it because it almost sounded like a 2025 top listened to podcast. 

We quickly discovered that we both share very similar past experiences, family struggles and finding our place in the world.

At the end of our conversation, we both acknowledged how we both felt seen, validated and appreciated for who we are and our struggles we chose to and are choosing to overcome. Him asking one question led to both feeling a little less alone in the world.

This is connection, this is healing.

This is what the world is craving, what we are craving. Sometimes we don't even realise. 

I think the first part of connection with others, lies the most important part, the connection to ourselves. Some of the avenues our chat went down could have been pretty dark for me, had I not felt so connected to myself. Had I not been connected to myself, the tears that built up in the corner of my eye from feeling so seen, in the past would have felt like tears of victim, rather than grace leading me to a downward spiral of depression. There's also the likely hood that had I not been connected to myself, this chance for connection with someone else may not have happened at all.

When we are showing up from a space of disconnect or inner chaos, we might not be so in touch with what we are sharing. Maybe we overshare, leading to overthinking later or our
conversations are calculated. Or maybe they trigger irritation or frustration or maybe there's no conversation at all. Just.a.string.of.transactional.wording.

We show up differently when we are connected to ourselves. When we are nourishing ourselves, holding space for ourselves and taking time for ourselves.

We express our self better, listen better, we engage better. It also gives us the ability to hold space for someone else and that's where real connection happens. 

I would never have thought our business meeting this morning would go from talking google analytics to generational trauma and how we both choose differently. I am so glad it did.

This morning's conversation was such a beautiful reminder. At the end of the day, we are all the same. We all have a story to tell. We all need connection.

We can have all our physical desires in the world, but none of it comes close to true connection, which is what brings true happiness and fulfillment.

I'd like to invite you to think of the last time you've connected with someone else? How did that feel? Were you showing up as you? Or is there room to connect with yourself a little more to show up as yourself a little more with yourself?

My inbox is always open to anyone that needs a little more connection. Or sign up to our newsletter for more tips on how you can bring more feelings of connection to yourself and others. 

Until my next spontaneous love letter, much love and many blessings x

Stacey